I was here when my H left and I needed to do that for me. I needed to help him pack and I needed to watch him walk out the door. I'm not the best one for advice as I'm on a complete roller coaster, but I'm going to try!
IMO, if you can't be there and calmly help him pack and load his stuff, then it would be better if you were not there. OTOH, if you can be there calmly, then he will have to look at you when he walks out of the door and I think that will stay with him for awhile.
There will be some others along shortly who'll be able to help you with this. Have you posted in Newcomers?? You tend to get more help over in that area from some of the vets on the site who give great advice and who are very wise!
Me: 31 H: 30 Kids: D9 Together almost 12 years Married almost 5 years EA began: 8/10 Separated: 3/11
