I have say, it was a big relief and weight off my chest after i did this. Thanks to all of you who really drilled into my head that getting a L is a good choice. Later in the evening when time came to talk to daughter, i was lot more happier. Talked longer and better. I thought i'd send daughter little gifts occasionally. So i am learning origami now. I sent her some origami last week along with some candy. Maybe i can become good in it and teach it to her.
Later wife asked if i got her reply. I told her yes and that i am taking it to my lawyer. I dont think she understood because she knows that i did not retain one.
Then I guess she'll be surprised, won't she? Don't back down if she makes this about YOU getting "dirty" or making the divorce "Ugly". You should expect her to try to make you wrong for simply standing up for yourself. She isn't used to seeing that, so it's a 180 and that WILL make her uncomfortable. But in time she'll also come to respect you for it. Don't cave in to her assertions if she tries to make you "wrong" about this. Stay calm when you talk to her but you're right to feel relief b/c now the "ugly" stuff can be handled by others. When conflict arises you tell her, "let's let the L's work that out b/c it seems we're at an impasse"
and in time, I'd bet she wants to keep legal costs down so she WILL be more prepared to negotiate and share with you. Til now, she's been holding all the cards b/c you let her. This changes that. Expect some bumps in the road as she doesn't always get her way. But do NOT back down. What you are doing is reasonable adult behavior. But yes, stay calm. A man in control of his emotions is a man of strength and that is attractive.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
