Well, up until this point I have been just an observer of posts on this site. Well, now I am an official poster. I felt I needed more input to my situation. I have a sibling that has been very supportive, but I feel my situation is becoming dire.
We have been married 10+ yrs, have a 3yr old, and now she says she wants a divorce. She unloaded on me after the New Year. Very similiar things as I have seen here, that she doesn't love me anymore, and maybe never did, I am too controlling, I am jealous, I don't respect her, I don't allow her to speak her mind, I bark at her,.....many things I do wrong, and have done our whole marriage. Over the years, a wall has been built inside of her per my actions, and now she says is too tough to get over. She is done. She had filed. It has been 2 weeks, and I have not went to pick up my papers. She has not had to have the sheriff serve me yet. However, On Monday, she gave me a business card for the lawyer..........
My wife is what I consider a walk away spouse from the DB book and posts here. I have tried the 180 tech with some success, but the divorce march still continues. We had a good weekend - went to the park with our son, church, and have a nice night. She still sleeps next to me, and cuddles up, but then is cold and won't touch or kiss me. She says she can't get past the pain, but then talks about how we should manage our money in the future. Mixed messages....
So, I guess I am looking for any advice. I have seen patience, patience, patience, on many posts here. I also try to continue to do the 180 tech, but seem to falter. Do I go pick up the papers or wait to get served?.....
