I really think that I am the crazy one in this sitch. I am certainly acting irrationally at times... I think... I don't know.
When I sent an email to W informing her that the business was done and I had to move away, W responded with the following (this is after I had the video camera and seen the clip and after W got it back from me):
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"Hey -
Well, I've been thinking all day about the next phase of your life ... and really have had to wrap my brain around the changes that you are going to endure over the next little while. I can only imagine what it must be like to be in your head right now .........
I am sorry that this has all happened. For me, I need to focus on the next steps for the kids. This is going to alter things a bit. I was going to work on my parenting plan this week, so I wanted to just run some of my thoughts by you - for what their worth.
I think you know by now that I am totally 100% supportive around making things good for the kids when it comes to being you. We both know that took me a bit to work out, but I am in a much better mind set now. I don't know what that means right now for you, because doing Sunday to Tuesday might prove to be a bit more difficult if you are living at your Mom and Dad's. Have you considered looking for a place to rent in (our home town)? You could use some of that money you have left to secure a home for at least 6 months while you go and find a secure job ..... there are quite a few places for rent right now, if you look around.
Let me know what your thoughts are on this and if we need to make changes in the days you have the kids."
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Then, regarding the video. There's more to the story over the video. It starts with me asking my D13 for the camera which she said was "ok" so I could get the videos. To W coming over to my place with an "odd aura" about her, indicating that D13 was upset because she wanted to put the video together for me for father's day (which is interesting as my b-day is in a few days and father's day is a month away) and then indicated that W would actually be hiring someone to put the video together for me...
Anyhow, I had already seen the clip but did not comment on it. Then my emotions got the better of me and I sent a text to W about how that clip was "funny" as per something our friend did. All she responded was "yes, he is funny".
Yes, I know it goes against principles I texted W last night simply saying (yes, I know it's wrong, but I did it) "I thought you might have had more to say about you and OM on the couch". (I'm sensitive because it is this OM that I found in my bed with W last october, under my covers, but fully clothed, with W).
Anyhow (and this is pretty much the same response W told me about the bed incidence), this is what W responded in email:
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"Subject: What you didn't see
Is me, OM 35 and (enabling) GF on the couch. Wow - you are so quick to judge. And I’m not going to defend my actions. There are my friends. I hang out with them. And I don’t need your permission or approval.
I don’t ask you what you are doing in your private life. I don’t watch you on FB and judge your behavior. I don’t come into your home without your knowledge and look through your things.
Do you know why? Because I’m done. As I’ve been telling you for the past 9 months.
I’m so sick of this. "
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I guess I deserve that. I have not responded to either of the emails. I need to take care of moving and other stuff for now. Then will deal with kid visits after that. And patiently wait for mediation and D, as best I can.
