My S is 10. I was going to let him pick something out and pick out a card. In your sitch, CS, I suggest going with a simple card that is only from your D.
My SD is almost 20...But she has no job so I got a Belk gift card and will get some flowers for her to give to her mother. I did tell her to NOT give me any credit for any of it and to not let her know I got it all for her. I don't plan to contact W on that day at all.
I bought some art supplies for my kids to put together cards. I also bought them each a hallmark card for the W and another for their grandma(yes, my MIL that I have such warm feelings for).
From me, I got her a simple card (from the friend section) wishing her happiness and love on her day(NO, not love from me, just in general). I also included a gift card to one of her favorite restaurants.
This is what I wrote.
W,
I just wanted to thank you for blessing me with two beautiful children that bring so much joy to my life. Have a happy mother’s day.
LITB
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
While driving with my boys a few days ago, I told them they had no choice in getting their mom a card, but asked if they wanted to get W (their step-mom) a card. Oldest (14) in the front seat yelled out "NO!". Youngest (12) in the back seat calmly said "don't think so dad" while continuing to play on his iPod. I don't think I'll do anything for her either, but I will get MIL a card as she's been like a M to me, moreso than her own D.
W birthday is a week after and haven't decided if and/or what to do for that. Have another week to decide on that...
Country, after my first D, while my boys were still little I got their M cards (still do I guess). Something simple would probably be fine.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
I have found out my D8 is doing something for W in school so that's taken care of. I will text D13 and find out if she has any plans for a mother's day gift. I guess I could buy cards for the girls to give to W as they are unlikely to do so.
Other than that, I will not do anything regarding W.
