By reading my journal, I know there were times that after she went public with her relationship with her boss, she was struggling with it and really was thinking of getting away from him and her job. At one point she had even asked me to buy her out of the house so she would have money to buy a car (she has a "company" car now), and have time to look for a job. I said no, since it's not what we agreed to, and not best for the kids and I. Now, I know that she then felt she had no choice and went back to her boss and then a couple weeks later went on vacation with him. And now she is trapped.
Oh please. I'm calling bullpoopy on this one, BTM. She is a grown woman, capable of making conscious choices about whether or not to remain faithful to her husband. This kind of thinking only enables her entitlement streak.
You DID do what was best for your kids and yourself. Stop beating yourself up over it. If it hadn't been the car, she would have found some other excuse to get her OM fix.
