Am I on the right track?

[NEmoose43]

Sandi, Calystra, thank you both so much.

She came by this morning and it was obvious that neither of us got a lot of sleep last night. She was here for about 5 minutes and I walked her to her car. She was hesitating a bit so I asked if she had anything she needed to say. She just said that she was sorry if she was being bitchy or selfish, but she needed this week to concentrate on what she needed to concentrate on. I just smiled and said don't worry, I understand.

She drove off and we left it at that. She sent a text a bit later that just said I'm sorry. I replied with "You're not being selfish or bitchy W, so don't dwell on that. Do what you need to do this week, I'll be here."

And that's it. Sandi, I am in full DB mode. My phone will actually be off today. And I know that talking about R or OM at this point is the worst thing I can do, so I will not do it. I can make it till the weekend, and even then, I know I need to let this happen at her pace. I can't put my timetable on everything, which I now realize is what I was trying to do, even if it was subconsciously.

And Calystra, I'm not sure what I said to get that reaction last night, but I think it was more of the taking ownership of what I had done. I think she feels like I finally understand what she is going through, but I'm not sure. I hope she'll open up about that sometime soon.

Thanks for the advice, it is so appreciated.