My wife travels about 50 percent of the time overseas, so today she emails me with May travel schedule, with the command that i will look after the children exactly on those dates, no consultation , just here it is. .... So when i drop the kids off back at my main home where they live, i say, i cant do those dates, they dont work for me. .... Well the wife has been going to the gym alot ( she doesnt want to get too fatigued with all the new sex she is having ) and shows me by jumping all around the front lawn having a major tantrum. Wow, talk about a change. Any way as i drive off i wave Like Prince William.
Now if she had said please i would do it, but to command me and then go nuts when she doesnt get her way....i know im pushing it, but she seriously overstepped the boundaries.
So my question is, even if you know your wife is going to go away and shack up in a hotel room for two weeks with the om, do you just embrace the suck and go look after the kids. My self respect / pride says NO.i also think the more she thinks I am a door mat the more she will never come back. I was never a pussy and she liked that. By saying no , to me it also forces her to start dealing with realities of normal life, its not all hotels, conferences and restaurants ( you cant compete with that).
I know she will email me tomorrow an angry one making d threats, financial ruin, social expulsion , blah blah blah blah. I ignore those coz she's angry . Im conflicted though, I cant go dark coz the kids and at the moment i would just like some peace so i can get my bearings, i feel like Im in a bad foreign language soap opera...
But if anyone has a strategy for dealing with this please do jump right into my nightmare, the waters warm.
Facingdivorce Me: 46 W: 40 D8 D6 Seperated feb 2011
