I will be here from time to time to keep up with others who are here. My story, while not done, will not be busted.
A few things happened here.
First, my landlord was told that he needs to do major work to the building and so I am out. That means my business is shutting down by the end of the week.
That also means that I will have to revert back to plan b, which is move to my folk's for a while as I sort through what to do next. Some possible opportunities coming up and one side project that might turn out decent. Will have to see.
My D13's boxing match from a while back was on our video camera. I asked D13 to borrow the camera so I could get the videos. I wasn't entirely shocked by what I found.
There was a bizarre confession that came about as W was being "interviewed" by SS16 om video. A candid conversation while SS16, W and D13 were watching tv late one night this past winter. About how W "cheated" on her boyfriend in school who happened to be the class president. Cheated on him with his best friend. As W put it "not one of my finest moment" and W and this president's friend went on to have a year long R after she broke up with the pres.
I have no idea how many other times that might have happened before our M. But I do know that before W and I became "officially" dating, W and I were seeing each other before she had left her past abusive R with D13's bio dad. It is obviously a pattern of behaviour. And obviously, truth be known, I was a willing and knowing participate as an OM prior to our M. My bad. I could have done things differently. I enabled W to continue her pattern.
The last video on the camera was of an early morning at her house with friends who had stayed the night. One of them was OM 35. The video contained, among other "light and funny" stuff with enabling friends of ours and OM 35, it caught W and OM 35 in an intimate moment on the couch.
There are some other comments made by W during this "ordeal" of me having to move out, as well as previous comments where W indicated that she was no longer "emotionally attached" to our M and my sitch and the kids, that strongly indicate W has made full commitment to R and future with OM 35.
In a normal world, infidelity or cheating is NOT acceptable in my world and without M and kids, I would have been out of here faster than you can say "WTF?"
Unfortunate that OM 35, whom I am (have been) good friends with in the past, who had his own very rocky and emotionally brutal D from his W who was a WAS would actually do this. *shrug*
Anyhow. This is closure for me. I have had a plan in the works to "find myself" again, just in case. I was moving down that path regardless. Now it is clear to me how the next 6 months at the least will play out. Mediation, figure out custody of kids, financial and M dissolution. And that is that.
I have in the past and will continue now in the future to work on myself to become a better person. No one can predict this kind of thing nor can we see the future and say this will never happen to me again. I sure as h3ll hope not but I will work on not letting this hurt my chances of a happy future with a new R and possibly M. And I will be the best dad I can for the kids. That goes without saying. And become better every day.
Good luck all. I believe in DB and hope you all find success and happiness.
