The Roller Coaster Keeps on Rolling

[Truegritter]

Hey man good to hear from you.

I figured you were procesing all this stuff.

I am sorry to hear where it sits right now but you know what?

It is a process. And it doesn't happen when or how we would like usually.

But I simply don't see how she and I can get to the point of true reconcillation until OM is out of the picture for good.

Absolutely the truth.

Now comes the part for your courage.

Go back and read the posts to you a few pages back. There is some good stuff there for you to think about and how to apply it to your situation.

I still believe your W is playing the victim role here. She is confused

When will you be confident enough in your changes and what you want in your life and how to live it?

Because that is the only way you can show her who you are and she will either see it or she won't.

She won't if you are sacrificing yourself at all costs to bring her back into the M.

It will only reinforce her stance that you are 100% responsible for this and she can do what she wants.

Do you think that kind of thinking is going to work in your M?

My advice?

Let her be like she said she wants.

Let her live without Denver pulling her back into the M.

Let her take some steps on her own.