Am I doing everything wrong?

[Confused423]

Moose,

I know exactly what you are talking about with the worries about the OW. Yes, I've wondered about all of those things and I've asked him those questions before. He has spent ALOT of time at our house the last 2 weeks and I was hoping that he was done with her, but it's very obvious that he isn't and that is what set me back tonight.

He asks the same questions. He's afraid that all of my changes will go to the wayside if he comes back and he says that he cannot bear to live that way again. I have validated and told him that I understand how he feels, but I honestly think it has more to do with the OW than he will admit. I know the reasons that he has given me for leaving and he says that OW has nothing to do with it, but as you said "if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck..."

I guess all that I can do is to get back on my horse and just apologize for tonight, but I don't know if that is going to work as I told him that I need more than he can give and that I'm just done with all of the pain. Won't it make me look fickle if I don't stick with it??