Am I doing everything wrong?

[Confused423]

I was just reading through your sitch and I wish that I could do what you have been doing!! I hope that I'll be able to get there. Some days I feel like I'm doing a GREAT job and then things like tonight happen and I think "I'm really just a sham". I try to pretend that the OW doesn't bother me. I try to pretend that him not being here doesn't bother me. I try to pretend alot of things, but in the end it's all a sham. Because it DOES bother me!!!

I don't want to lose my H. I really want to have my nice little family back and I want it right now...dangit I'm a bit of a brat that way I suppose.

What do you do to help you relate so well to your wife? Is it the fact that you see a light at the end of the tunnel? Do you think it would be harder if there was no 3 week time frame?