Not much to update on. I still have not asked my wife for an update re status of the OM. I do continue to monitor the situation. From what I have seen, they appear to be moving forward as just friends. As I mentioned previously, my wife has very little if any opportunity now to be alone with him.
She had an excellent opportunity on Friday night re a retirement party for a co-worker. She went to the dinner and was home early. I had fully expected her to take advantage of the situation and stay out late with him etc, but that was clearly not the case.
I have been watching some of the other threads and the advice is consistent in that I should not approach her on the status of the OM. I was feeling pretty down last week and really wanted to confront her. I think this is because it was such as nice break having her being away from the house and the OM, that for once I could forget about the whole situation and just enjoy life.
When she came back, I realized then how painful this whole process is and how much effort it takes on a day to day basis just to keep going going.
May 8 will be the 18 month mark since the initial bomb was dropped. This was the date that I had set with respect to how much time I would invest in this without seeing anything in return.
Will need to consider over the next few days whether I have it in me to keep going for the sake of my 3 kids.
