Onmyway or someone on sparks's page made a great comment. Said MWD's take is that intimacy is built through shared positive times, with little or no negativity. Can you guys declare a no war zone day or two each week? You outlaw emotional relationship stuff and just do something nice together until the connection starts to come back.
You shouldn't be attracted to him right now (your brain and your heart are working to protect you) - know that that is ok. But do give him some guidance on what you need him to do - giving positive feedback is really helpful, a good counselor, maybe even a weekend marriage retreat? Def check out the piecing section and see if some experienced DB'ers can help you.
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem
