Am I doing everything wrong?

[NEmoose43]

Confused, I feel for you...if you take a look at my thread, you'll see that I very very often need to put a sock in it. Actually had an R talk tonight that W initiated, which shocked me, but hey I'll take what I can get.

Anyway, not going to lie, anything that makes us unattractive makes the OP more attractive, but this is nothing that can't be overcome. Here's something that has worked for me. The last time I had a tough R talk with W I tried something different. We were having a very light and cheery convo and I just said "Hey, sorry for the other night, I'd had a pretty tough day," and left it at that. When I didn't say anything else, I think she expected me to, and she said "I understand, you're upset, it's ok." I almost fell over. Now I know the convo still set me back a bit, but not dwelling on it WHEN I WAS WITH HER seemed to let it blow over.

I've learned pretty fast that I'm going to have days where I'm doing ok, and then something will set me off and I'll have to talk to her. It's natural to want to, and I know that my biggest obstacle is getting past that need, sounds like yours might be too. Don't dwell on it, just know that it's a natural reaction to where we are in our M's...and I really do believe that it's going to get easier.

But you know what, that's what this board is for. If you feel the need to talk, come talk to us!