wife having affair - please help

[facingdivorce]

Kml thanks for the reply. Its a complex sitch as my wife and her om work together and would be fired for this, due to the fact that they travel togrther and breach of standards of business conduct. Hence why she wont admit affair, the career consequences are huge for both of them.

They think i am going to inform their hr mgmt, so i have panic texts from her, trying to be nice.

The thing is we have no f2f contact, no phone conversations, just text. The seperation has been 8 weeks. So there is little opportunity to engage her and she makes no effort with me. If i tried to engage then it will look like i am pursuing and she hates that. She obviously has no respect for me.

I want him to know that there are consequences for what he has done and i want to rattle their relationship, to burst their romantic bubble.But i dont want to make threats, i just want the action...

I am concerned this will push my wife away into his arms though, make them unite so to speak. Any thoughts really help me