Can the children go to you instead you going to them? What would you do if W was M again? You wouldn't be able to stay at her house.
You know you shouldn't be telling her ILY or asking her if she still loves you. That's one reason she's so quick to enforce that she plans to never R with you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
