A word of caution though, me and my W are going through the exact same thing with the whole intimacy issues. This is hard since I imagine your W is as confused as mine as to what they really want. I really think society has done such a good job pigeonholing us into specific little boxes, that she finds it hard to transition from one to the other. I truly believe as stated before that it is not boxes but rather a scale. This is totally my opinion, but women need someone to be there for them, and at the same time provide security, and a sense of well being and belonging.
All that being said be VERY careful reinitiating intimacy. Do not pursue intimacy even if she moves back in, and wants to work things out. I know it will be hard, but I made that mistake and I'm pretty sure it has set me back. Let her come to you, otherwise she will think that you are forcing yourself on her. (This doesn't just refer to ml, but also to hugs and kisses). Be positive, and be happy, but most importantly let the intimacy and that close contact come naturally.
After this experience I believe that women will gravitate to whoever can meet her needs, be it male or female. Unfortunately society (to include you) are pressuring her to pick between 3 boxes. Straight, lesbian, or bi. Each time she changes boxes it is a huge emotional problem, since she now must rationalize and agonize over this new decision. The more you push her, the more she will be reminded of this and backlash at you for pressuring her to make a choice. (I'm sure you knew all this already). Instead just let it come naturally. I think Michelle said it best when she said (and I paraphrase) that intimacy is built by spending good times together, with little to no negatives. WAW's are blinded by their need to run away from their LBS that they don't see the negatives in their new relationship with OM (or in our case OW). Thus the dreaded fog.... Spend time positively with her, while minimizing bad experiences (like pushing for intimacy), and the intimacy and positive sexual tension will naturally return. (At least thats what I got from MWD's article).
One last thing. Get yourself a copy of No More Mr Nice Guy. by Dr. Glover. It has been a great help to me to understand which of my nice guy behaviors she has found repulsive, and have contributed to her not being attracted to me. I have been weak and pretty spineless in the past, that is not sexy. This book has helped me understand why it is not attractive, and forced me to admit that my behavior is not exactly the stuff of dime store romance novels. (Hey they sell for a reason right?)
alright rant is over....good luck brother...things are looking good
