Today, for about an hour, I talked with the female half of a couple that have been friend with STBX and I for about 15 years. She is the one STBX asked to go on vacation with her and her boss.
Our friend was very careful not to choose sides or badmouth STBX, but she certainly agrees with my view of things. At one point, she and STBX were best friends, so that means a lot to me. She agreed that even though there were some issues in our marriage that we would still be together today, had STBX not gone to work for OM 10 years ago.
After that talk and a brief one with an acquaintance who went through a sit just like ours a few years ago (his ex is now with her boss who she cheated with) I am feeling calm. The more I talk about the truth, the less I feel that I want to save the marriage. I know this changes from day to day, but today, I have little interest. Of course, at first contact with STBX, I just might break down all over again. That is why I need to stay dark. Day five is almost done, and most importantly, I don't feel like it's an effort to stay away today.
