Hope, I think I understand a little how you feel. I was here in 2003 DBing, because H walked out. At the last minute he backed out of D and eventually moved home. Things weren’t great, but they were better … until I got a job offer in another state. That was five years ago and it’s been one long waiting game ever since. I guess I’m here because I’m tired of waiting for my life to start. I’m tired of someone else making decisions about my life that aren’t getting me any closer to what I want. I am ambivalent about D, though my rational side knows that I can only expect more of the same controlling and stalling if I stick around. I too want kids that my H won’t consider… oh and a marriage worth raising kids in would be nice too, but that’s not likely. Tick, tock. Since I’m the one walking out the door, I may not be the best for giving advice. I know that as sure as I am that divorce is the right thing to do, I don’t want to be one of those bitter, crazy people who hates someone that I once loved very much and I sure as heck don’t want to give any real justification for my H to hate me either. Sometimes the best we can do is survive with our best self still in tact.
