Sorry that you're back here. As you know, you're among friends. I think good advice has already been given. Keep the focus on you. That's all you can do for now. It's apparent your H hasn't done the work on himself that he needed to.
As for his drinking, my own H has some of those issues himself. Nothing like the extant to which you describe your H. If and when he decides to tackle that issue, be aware of the realities of substance abuse treatments. There are tons out there, but most (including to most people's surprise AA) have been shown to ineffective. Do the research and make sure that any treatment has facts to back up their claims. Here's a good discussion on the topic http://www.skepdic.com/sat.html
Again, sorry to see you here but you are stronger than you are giving yourself credit for. You will make it through this.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
