Concerned listener: I wish so bad that I could have gotten to the forums after I posted here back in March, but at the time I had no comp. useage and I missed your suggestion then to attend alanon.
Maybe I could have saved things, if I just started going to alanon earlier. But I didnt get to see your post till recently.
I WISH SO BAD I WENT TO ALANON EARLIER, (my first meeting is tonight)I SWEAR THINGS WOULD BE DIFFERENT RIGHT NOW IF I DID,I WOULDNT HAVE BLOWN UP AND I WOULD HAVE BEEN FOCUSING ON ME INSTEAD OF HIM, AND HE WOULD PROBABLY STILL BE HERE - IF I DID. MAN DID I MESS THIS UP ROYALY>I COMPLETELY REVERTED BACK TO OLD WAYS (nagging and complaining).
Thanks, and if you have any other suggestions - I am all ears. TIPPER
Now that's not entirely true Tipper.
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I have been such a push over. My addiction is my H and making this M work. I bend over backwards to make him happy and let him go out drinking. He would text me from the bars, as I would be home hurt and alone : That what matters most to him is that I Love him unconditionally. In other words he was getting eveything he wanted while I got thrown the bone.
You keep thinking that THIS is all your fault...and I'm going to worry that he can come back and as he pleases, as long as he comes back. You'll be here again if you allow that, if you take all of the blame.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
