Am I on the right track?

[islander]

Man, I am sorry to hear that. I remember when I found a similar diary entry and it literally killed me inside. W had told me that she wanted to move out to work in herself and be by herself to clear her head. She said she felt like she had always been in a R and never lived by herself. (she lived alone for about a year and a half while we were dating, but I guessed that slipped her mind in the rewrite of our history).

I found her journal and she wrote about moving in with OM or getting a place by herself. The bomb had just dropped, and she wanted to effing move in with OM with SD.

She wrote that she wondered why or how I could try so bard when she did t want to try at all

That I was a great guy.

I write all of this bc I do know exactly how you feel. Exactly.

What you should not do, IMO, is confront her at this time. There will come a time when you probably will confront her, but the time is definitely not now.

If you confront her, I guarantee you will push her straight into his arms. She will be mad at you for snooping, tell you you don't trust her, and will probably say many other mean things to you.

Confronting her will make you feel much worse than letting it go for now. You may initially feel good, but that feeling will be gone in an instant and you will feel a new low.

I thunk you should go a little dark. Do something for yourself tonight, and as much as you can this week. I wouldn't be mean to her, or unfriendly when you talk to her. Let her contact you, you leave her alone. If she contacts you, be friendly, keep the convo very light and upbeat, and be busy or getting ready to do something.

She also may have left the journal for you to find. Maybe. Don't play into it. If you wrote something like that, I know you wouldn't leave it where it could be found.

Be cool, calm, and patient. It is the only thing you can do.