Jack, I get what you're saying, but isn't the point of all this to fight for our marriage? I know that I want to be a better person regardless of the outcome, but I want my W back above and beyond everything else. And that is what I'm fighting for...I didn't know I was actually fighting this other guy until this morning.
She also has no idea that I have any actual proof about this beyond what she's told me, which is that he kissed her 4 months ago and that he supposedly respects that we are married and are trying to work this out. She does know that I am suspicious though.
She keeps saying that she wants to get through her finals this week and then take a look at us...but how can I believe that when I know what I know now?
So my question is do i just drop the rope completely and let her figure out what she wants? Do I maintain any sort of contact? So f-ing lost today. Please give me any advice you guys might have.
BITS M: 35 W: 27 T 7.5 years M 5 years No kids My EA: 3/08 Her EA: 1/11, discovered 3/11 (ongoing?) ILYBINILY, D mentioned 3/8/11 W at parents house: 4/16/11
