This isn't going to be a post that makes you feel better, or overlook his bad behaviour, things will improve you need to relax sort of post.
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I have been such a push over. My addiction is my H and making this M work. I bend over backwards to make him happy and let him go out drinking. He would text me from the bars, as I would be home hurt and alone : That what matters most to him is that I Love him unconditionally. In other words he was getting eveything he wanted while I got thrown the bone.
That is not piecing. It never was.
Taking the WAS, MLC or otherwise, no matter the cost should never be the goal.
We tend to get so excited that they want to come back we lose sight that they should be WORKING on validating our fears and living up to our boundaries when they return.
"It will be ok." Is a poor game plan.
I am sorry. With strong boundaries in place and the spouse working toward meeting them, piecing can happen. You get to be a hardass because you and your relationship should be worth their best effort.
You needed to be tougher, you still have that opportunity however.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
