I bet you read the book and the lightbulb went off and you thought, "That is what will work!"
And it might, in time.
There are no quick fixes, or magic bullets, or guarentees; if there were that book would have cost severl thousands of dollars...or pounds.
I belive and still do that DB/DR gives you the best 'chance' if you are honest with yourself and are consistent with your actions and goals to save a persons relationship.
The LRT...despite the T meaning 'technique' is in fact not a trick, or tactic. You literally have to be willing and able to end your relationship if it doesn't go the way you were hoping.
For myself in that situation. If he had been on the phone with her, I would have told him that I found that it was still new for me, and I deserved better from him.
LRT is also about standing up for yourself, what is acceptable and what is not and laying down some ground rules. That's a hard thing to do, right off the bat, because most people allow others to break the rules if they think their spouse is showing signs of coming around. When usually it just makes the LBS look toothless.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
