YR and Tipper, since the goal for most us who stumble here after the first bomb is initially reconciliation, most of us who do not get as far as you guys, felt like failures, at times, compared to you. Of course none of us are failures, we are successes because we held it together, forgave our h's and got on with our lives. Just so you know!! And you aren't failures - you got further along a hard road than most of us, and had the courage to take it. Shame on them, not shame on us
It is hard when our partner leaves us again, - whether they come back for hours, days, weeks or even years. But until they complete their journey they are not ready to be with us, or anyone else for that matter.
Interesting about the drinking that so many report. Mine never drank a lot - morein the first few months post bomb, but he got it in hand. But he was just mean all the time. Maybe the drinking helps numb the pain and keeps them a little sweeter??
