I don't know what to do. I want her back, I want us back, and I told her that and I know she knows it. Do I go fully dark and hope she makes the choice to try again and not throw us away for a guy who's 13 years older than her and has a kid from an already broken marriage?
God help me, I don't know what to do.
That depends; are you content being her fallback position?
Everyone's different, but I could never sit around hoping my own wife would "choose" me, while she lies to my face. If it were me, I'd do a "Robx" speech on her.
