I couldn’t come up with anything nice to say to H’s dismissive email, so after a day or so I finally wrote back telling him to just let it go. He responded with five paragraphs about how I’m having an affair (I’m not) and how I always get my way and how unfair it is that I won’t talk to him. God knows, I’ve tried talking to him for years, and I know this is just a ploy to guilt me into an argument. He sucked me in a little, because I wrote back to tell him there was nothing to discuss, because he dismisses everything I say and if he wants to know how I feel he can refer to my first email on the subject. (I refrained from pointing out that he obviously hadn’t paid any attention to what I said in it.) I addressed his lengthy assault on my fidelity by just saying that I’d never cheated on him and had never considered it. (I left out the part that it was insulting for him to even make the accusation… and oh… the idea of having a man in my life right now is sickening.) He’s hurt. He’s trying to pick a fight so he can start some kind of dialogue wherein he can bully me back into his life. I get it, but it does not make me thing “Wow! I’m really gonna miss that.”
