Many great things that you are doing and I think that is awesome. You're motivated and focused and that is a plus.
Like I was once told Church a Christian does not make. It is good that you go. I go because I get the fellowship and need the strength right now. I'm sure that I will continue to go and for the longest time I didn't. My kids are really the ones that push me to go because it helps them through all of this. They now know that they have someone that they can talk too that will listen and they don't have to worry about hurting them. They do talk to me and they have tried talking with their dad, but now they are learning that they can talk to God and he will listen. I think they are worried about hurting our feelings if they say too much.
I think it is good for her to miss you and I know what you mean about the detaching. It is nice to need someone because you love them and not love them because you need them. It makes your love stronger, but not so dependent on one single person.