Tipper,

I like the short term goals.

Listen, a lot of people are not going to know what to say at first...

I mean, you did this and you reconciled...

Others are still struggling and are going to be uncertain of how or what to advise you...

To me, sounds like back to basics...

DB101...

No decisions have to be made right now...

Give yourself some time to regroup...

You didn't waste the last three years, and you haven't failed just because your H hasn't completed his journey yet...

It doesn't sound like you have really been taking care of Tipper though... just waiting for her H to be around...

What can you do, besides Alanon, to start taking care of Tipper and begin making her feel loved?


"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox