Half in and half out... How do I move forward?

[barnaby]

Ok- this is good- this sort of thing feels achieveable

Before we went on a date together, I'd need to think about what we could do, check that out if necessary, then "book" him. Check he's not already made plans.

Arrange a babysitter.

Make concrete bookings/plans.

We did make efforts towards this after he told me about what happened with the other girl. We do both agree we should prioritise this.

I would like to do something a little different. I am very much a fan of "traditional" dates, going out to dinner, having drinks, going to the cinema, that sort of thing. He would do these too, but I like the idea of appealing to his more spontaneous side. Surprising him with something we haven't done before or he wouldn't necessarily be expecting.

I've got a handful of ideas. One was booking a rally car day- we have a standing joke about his driving, and we "fake" argue over the fact we should really be rally driving and not on the "real" road, and who would be the rally driver, and the map reader (or whatever you call them!) I like the idea of surprising him with that.

Another was going off to a theme park for the day one Saturday.

Another is an adventure-type park where you spend a couple of hours basically climbing, abseiling, swinging through the trees!

A more usual idea is going out for dinner, we both love to have a break from cooking at the weekend so I know that'd be a winner with him.