Am I on the right track?

[Navyguy]

Moose:

Read your thread, and I agree that you are somewhat in the same place I was when I got back from my deployment. The absolute worst thing you can do right now is push her to feel a certain way. You MUST give her the space she needs (and is even asking for!). That was my #1 biggest mistake. I made the changes I needed to, but never let her see them for herself. I expected my W to "snap back" to loving me since I had fixed myself.

Every time I would get frustrated with her lack of progress, I would start pushing her buttons and/or take her temperature, which pushed her back to square one (or further away). Don't F this up...be patient. Patience doesn't mean waiting a week, or two, or even a month. Patience is sitting back and waiting for her to come to you, however long it takes.

My W has been back in the house for about 6 weeks now. During our separation, I made the decision that I was absolutely not going to be the one to end my M. A huge part of making sure that I am living that mantra is knowing that I cannot control how she feels or what actions she takes.

Is it painful? Yes. Is it frustrating? Extremely. Is it working? Read my sitch and decide for yourself.

Stupid people don't learn from their mistakes. Smart people learn from their mistakes. Really smart people learn from other people's mistakes.