punkin, Thank you for your response, I really needed someone. I do believe he was still in MLC for the first year he returned, but the 2nd year was awesome and I felt like I had my H back,we hung out together everynight and remodeled a new house we were moving into at the time. It was bliss for that year. Then I got laid off in June '10 and thats when every thing started back up.
Then I find out from my brother tonight that he had know something my H did 3yrs ago:the week before he returned to me he bought flowers for the bar tender that I am suspicious that he likes now.
He had spent wed, thurs, and fri last week at her bar. That is why I exploded on fri, I had a feeling he liked her way back then but now its confirmed. She has a boyfriend in town that is a cop and she is not interested in my H at all, but I can just tell he likes her.
When he came back 3 yrs ago, the first 6 months he was still trying to seek out a new apartment(different than the one he was in at the time). And come to find out, she was living in the one he wanted to move into. I couldnt understand why he wanted to switch apartments then, but now I know.
I used to go to a counselor on my own. He wants nothing to do with it. Now I am gonna start al-anon, cuz - I did not feel much help from the counseling at the time. Hopefully it will help.
I have kept DBing all along untill this year, (he knows nothing about it), but then I couldnt keep it up when all the same tendencies started up. Thats when I started nagging him about his time at the bars. Every month this year we have fought about it and I have exploded time after time. It hasnt worked obviously. I definetly let the DBing slip this year. TIPPER
