I really do think you should start a GET A LIFE Thread..titled UP, Up, and AWAY...getting a life!
You are so inspirational....you could talk about all of the things you have done for YOU...the flying lessons you are taking and the working out, etc...it would help others to understand how doing for ourselves makes us more attractive to others...I stopped doing for me when things got good again between me and my H...and started doting on him...and then he f**ck*d me over again. So, it's important to start it and stick to it....for yourself and your self esteem... You have a great handle on that, Bob and could share it with others.....KUDOS to you! You get Akgal's Get A Life DB AWARD for today!
just got back from working out and breakfast w/ C. While talking over breakfast she said she is having a really emotionally tough time dealing with employee problem - her business is up and with no one else there she is really swamped and she said it is really lonely all day there alone. She said it is making her crazy and she called her Dr. who actually increased her AD's. Dr. said it was just temp to get her over the hump. She said she was really concerned even about where her next paycheck was comming from, although she did say that she had a little savings and that she though she could count on me.
THAT is the part that has me worried - it seems that she is taking me for granted. But yet, if I cause too much doubt in her mind about me she might just hop off the fence on the other side. But then "drop the rope" --- Based on other post I have read, I guess for now, I will do nothing as to her and continue to work on me.
I need to find something that I can do where there is a good chance of meeting other people. Working out is one thing, and I plan to do it at least 4 times a week. But something else would be nice.
Has C ever discussed switching AD's with her dr.? Maybe it would be good for her to find someone else to hire so to take her mind off of the employee she had the problems with.
The flying lesson sounds so cool.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
morning Pam - I did mention to her this morning about maybe switching AD's and she said she talked about that w/ Dr. but Dr. wants to leave everything the same but just up dosage a little for a month. She does feel she will need to replace the employee and has started to look around some but until she get more help she is kinda frazzled.
She did send me an IM just a min ago she said "I feel so much better, thanks for listening to me, I think you're right to have someone to talk with is what is important right now, I'm just sorry I'm sooo down around you. "
I was just concerned if the dosage she is on makes her feel she doesn't give a darn upping the dosage on the same medication might make that feeling even worse.
I am glad she feels better for talking to you.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
that is my concern too - and she did mention that to the Dr.
I had also mentioned to her this morning that I feel that some people when they have a problem will just use AD to cover up the problem and use them as a cruch rather than dealing with the problem. Sure some problems are very hard to deal with but just covering them up and not dealing with the problems will not help you get over it and when you get off the AD's you still have the problem to deal with. MTCW
just a point that I remembered from this morning as I was saying good bye to C after Breakfast. just before she left she leanded in to me for a good bye kiss and without thinking I went for the cheek. as she got closer she moved for lips but I also moved more and we did the cheek to cheek good bye kiss. In thinking about that later I remember doing that the last time I kissed her good bye too. She definitely noticed but it was more of an instinct on my part rather than planed. Don't know what to make of that and posted just for comments.
This is the first time that I have put anything on your thread, but I do read it. I like to read what has happened with you guys since your divorce.
I was divorced in October of 2003. I didn't want it, but your story gives me hope. So does the Lord though because he has already promised me the restoration of my marriage. Now I'm just waiting on him and working on me.
I wouldn't worry to much about the kiss thing. I think that you are just so used to having to do that, that it is just a natural thing for you. It is going to be strange to break some of those old habits when things start progressing because you are just trying to not cross over a line right now.
It will make her wonder and maybe that is what the Lord wants her to do for right now is wonder. Sometimes they have to realize just how good they had it before they really get it. I know for myself, all of this has made me appreciate my husband much more then before. Just as I'm sure that it did the same for you. Now she has to get to that point about you.
Then when you guys get back together for good, you will both have experienced what it is like to take each other for granted and will be much more careful to not do that again.
