You can still do this. Love, real love, unselfish love is incredibly powerful. It doesn't make you a doormat or a fool. It's all in the delivery.
What does your gut tell you to do?
I have to choose to give her real, unselfish love at a time when many men would to the opposite. I have to love her at the worst of times. I need to apply DB principles, without being cold and uncaring.
I need to let her feel how much I love and care for her. Not try to make her feel it, because I think she should feel it the way I think she should.
The last time we spoke, she said you still haven't changed. She's telling me right there, in a moment of sheer frustration and anger what she needs from me. Change - and not just the changes that i think are good. I have made great progress as a person, but not as a man showing his wife true, unconditional, pure love and affection.
As for the too late thing, I just reminded myself that there are still no lawyers involved etc etc and that there is more than a year before the agreed upon time to sell the house and proceed with divorce.
