I suppose it's never too late. But OM has so much control over her life, that it's sooooo much tougher with him involved. But, the reality is he has always been there, and it may be possible that their relationship being in the open could actually help. My thoughts on that would take a ton of time to explain. In short - it just may not be all that special after all. Also, if she feels the other way and loves her new life with him, than she does. If not, it at least, changes things up when some change is needed.
So, I have chosen to continue to try, but with different tactics and without the fear of it not working out. I am more prepared than ever for the absolute end of my marriage, and not filled with fear. For now and the immediate future, I stay dark. When there is contact between us, I show that I care, do not pry in any way, and really listen to her words and validate my butt off. I need to show that I am compassionate, but not clingy and needy. So simple - put her first!
