WAW, and a bisexual open marriage

[25yearsmlc]

PS I don't understand what your fight was all about. She made a comment about how long it had been since you two ML? And you had the right date and she didn't?
But she created a dispute about sex, stemming from HER making so many conditions before being able to have sex, that you have not had it for 1.5-3 months? And she accused YOU of cheating?

Ironically, women who refuse their h's often are paranoid about their h's cheating.

But to me, and I am NOT saying I'm right, but to me, a man/woman who cuts their spouse off of marital relations is asking for problems. I find it unfair of them to complain about an affair, when they deny their partner the one thing only a marriage is supposed to provide. Married people need some form of physical intimacy. Maybe it's only hugging when a partner is injured or too pregnant, post partum, for example. But the desire has to be expressed in some way. Or there's trouble brewing.

For instance, a few years back there was a woman here who had not slept with her h for 6 years, due to her own inner issues. She loved her h but had serious intimacy issues. She was crushed and shocked when he left her for OW. At first it was so hard for her to understand but finally she realized that in a way she had pushed her h into the OW"s arms. She had set him up and she "got it." Then she was filled with remorse b/c her h had tried telling her in so many ways. Finally she said the surprise was how long it had taken him to have an A. She learned a lot, the hard way.

Just food for thought. Not saying that will happen to you but I do find it odd how jealous she gets about your behavior when it is her stopping the intimacy. Am I missing something? Seriously, maybe I am.