So I finally broke the news to him. I didn't go into blame or history or any other garbage that doesn't really matter. I just told him that it's clear we can't both be happy in this relationship at the same time, and I'm ready to end it. His response was to tell me that it's out of the question because he doesn't want a divorce... his same unilateral attitude has now determined that divorce is off the table because HE doesn't want it. Then he went on about how he accepts responsibility for what he has done and that he's put me through all of this for the sake of our relationship. OMG! He's been telling me for years that he's in the wrong and not once has he changed his behavior. Now he claims that his behavior has been "inconvenient, inconsiderate and not constructive" was all for my sake. The arrogance of his abuse is off the charts. He's essentially telling me that he's not really sorry, he's self-righteous. Anyway, none of that really matters as much as the fact that he missed the point completely. I don't want him to make me promises to change (he's proven he won't) or offer me appeasement. I never want him to be in a position to lie to me again. I want a divorce. The fact that he'll lie to me to keep me from divorcing him for having lied to me all of this time is just insulting.
