Am I on the right track?

[ninelives]

Moose:

I may be wrong but I think its time to be honest with yourself about some things.

WEre you more concerned about the dog or getting ahold of her?
I think you just wanted contact and to somehow convince yourself that she wasnt with OM.

IVe been there and it hurts like hell everytime you think she is with him. I live in a very small town and have to see his truck in her driveway once in a while. STill hurts but I dont let it consume me like i once did.

This is the hardest thing you'll ever have to do but you MUST make peace with it. Im not saying you have to like it or agree with what she is doing , BUT this falls into the realm of things you CANNOT control and since you CANT. You have some choices to make.

A) Accept it and deal with it the best you can

B) Reject the very notion of it and let it drive you insane because it will.

I am JUST now getting to the point where I know that it goes on, and I feel really bad about it , but i focus on other things to get through. The sun WILL come up tommorrow.

Please dont think Im being insensetive about your feelings.
I thought I was going to DIE and words cannot express the hurt and betrayal I felt. But ultimately, what could I do about it?

If i want her back ( and I am starting to doubt that I do) I have to be the BEST me that I can be and show her ; not tell her ; that I am a BETTER alternative than what she is with.

So HOw do you act when she comes back.

1) Not so NEEDY or Clingy.. You handled that poorly. Way too many texts. Just ONE text to tell her is all you need. Its like pulling a trigger harder on a gun, wont make the bullet fly faster.

2) Be concerned about the dog, but have solutions on hand. Be calm and in control.

3) DONT ASK ABOUT OM!!! This will put her on defensive.

MOOSE, I have made sooooo many mistakes dealing with my wife and WHY. Because I am a passionate mediterranian that often has let emotions prevail. Get control of yourelf and show her a smart, intelligent MOOSE that is worth coming back to.

Keep the dumb one in Riverdale.

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