Please be more patient with me. It hasn't even been a full year that the full truth came out (June 21)and it's only been 6 months that the OW moved away.
I DBed my butt off....actually lost 20lbs :-) Even before I found out the whole truth and was lead to believe it was only an EA, I issued the LRT (May 29, 2010)and told him he could leave, we could sell the house and split everything down the middle. I couldn't understand why it had not gone into a PA and I feared that if that was left "unexplored" he would be driven to explore it. I knew I couldn't handle that. Best to be done with it. I was not going to play any games or hide my feelings.
He chose me, he chose to stay. Yet he was still wrestling to fully end it. I still don't know when it fully ended. The date seems to move around. He "can't remember" when it ended. It's that deception that still has me on guard.
None of this is easy or clear cut. I'm doing the best I know how. If I could flip a switch I would. Tell me where it is and I'll hit it.
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.