I think I see a bit of light...

[Sanderika]

Hello SA,

I too had a wedding anniversary this week, my 27th.

It was a hard day to get through as my mind wandered all day about the great times we shared. I, like you, do not really see what was so bad between us. We loved much, accomplished much and appeared to be well rooted in happiness.

Of course, I never heard from H on the anniversary day. He does not now acknowledge it to have any significance.

It was a such blow to me when he left. I, like you, now look back and realize he was gone in mind and spirit long before he took the steps out the door.

While I know why he left, I still cannot believe that he did not truly love me enough to support me and stand by me when for 26 years I was his biggest fan and supporter. I can only assume that my H's weakness is his inability to be compassionate. Others have said he always had a cold heart. I believe them now.

I, too, took my wedding vows very seriously. I have taken the same vow to love him until death. I am still supporting him by letting him go.....supporting his thoughts about what he wants now.

It's all quite strange and funny at the same time...

Take care, make today a good day for you,

Sanderika