My long posts get jumpy and hard to write so I'll do this in a couple.
Anyway...
My move is to my new life. 3 hours away from here in northern Ontario. A lakehouse near my cottage. I am listing the cottage next week to also sell. And the new house is with my new man. Hard to believe Josh and I have been together 7 years! We just completed a renovation in the new house - a gorgeous handicapped bathroom with laundry adjacent to my son, Ryan's room. He will be moving with me tommorrow. It is a great setup for him and I have worked intensely the past few months arranging good care for him at the lake.
Ashley (now 22) moved into an apt a month ago today. She took one of our kitties - Tango and I will be taking the other - Blu. I am also getting a new ragdoll kitten 2 weeks from today. Bought him before he was born. His name will be Riley. Josh is at the new house putting up making some small modifications to make things safer for the kitties and Ryan.
And my ex and I made some kind of peace a few months ago when Ryan had a horrific illness in hospital and almost didn't make it. It was time to set aside our petty differences and just be there as co-parents. Something we were never able to achieve before.
Don't like my ex one iota. He made my life miserable for years and has done little to fix his R with his kids. But it is what it is. Perhaps with Ashley having an apt - he can visit her easier (she would NEVER go to his house and be around his OW - her choice nor would my other son). But strangely - the man who always balked at child support and gave as little as possible - stopped by her work yesterday and gave her $40 - "to help her out". Ummm - he also brought in his "grandchild". OW's son's girlfriend got pregnant and somehow he calls this child his grandson. My kids think that's creepy. But anyway - he is still being manipulative. No doubt "maggot"(forgive me - I still think the name is appropriate - LOL) put him up to it. They are still trying everything to coerce the kids into being a part of their lives but they've never tried making any REAL effort. Like Chuck taking the kids away for a weekend. Maggot won't allow it. A loss for all. She insists on being part of it - or nothing.
Anyway. I started letting him come here after Ryan got sick a few months ago and it was harder to take him out for visiting. Through the separate entrance to Ryan's room. But last week - I was away and my daughter let him into the main part of the house (something I would never allow). Of course I was packing and the house never looked worse. And he told both her and Ryan's nurse how awful the house was. Yep - like it was his business. And criticized all the fixups we had done. Lousy job on the laminate floor and painting as he could have done better. Yep - some things never change!
