Here's my thoughts on going dark: When nothing else has worked, you may as well do dark. STBX and I have been separated for a year and a half. During that time, we dated, went on vacations together, I was her friend, etc...etc. And now - she is in an open relationship with her Boss, after rumors of their affair for 8-9 years. So, bottom line, nothing else worked. It's time for me, at least, to go completely dark and let her have her new life. If she loves it, there is no hope for us. If not, she will have to come to me, fully and completely. Not just take what she needs from me and feed me crumbs. So...dark it is. Or really LRT.
That's my 2 cents. You go completely dark when you feel it is the right time. The right time though, is often much, much sooner than you think. I waited way too long. Don't make the same mistake.
