I am so much further into this than you, that my STBX certainly wouldn't notice me being dark for 3 days. All her focus is on finally being with the OM who has spent 8-9 years trying to win her. But, my hope is that after a month or so, she will notice that she does miss seeing me and that I wasn't such a bad guy. Some day, I simply want her to admit she made some very bad choices - including choosing him over me. If that never happens, I still know it and that will be enough for me.
