From small beginnings come great things

[zengypsy]

WOW 2. I have been away so long I just spent the last 45 minutes catching up. You have gotten some great adivce from the vets. How lucky r u?

I still say you are Plan B for her. Do you want to Plan B for someone? I sure don't. And to what/who's expense will this be for?

Your XW needs to find her own way in her own time. This may be with or without you. You have taked the journey without any handholding. She needs to put her big girl pants on and decide what she needs to do for her. If she is willing to embark on the same solution oriented journey that we have all been on. Some choose not to, some choose to but stop when they start getting into the nuts and bolts of things.

We both know that once you start on this journey you have to face ALOT of stuff. It's alot to face but we chose not to stay stuck and the WAS's remain stuck. Our X's, WAS's are missing out on a much better version of us. THEIR loss IMHO.

You know what's best for yout sitch 2. I just don't want you to sit around and wait in the wings and have life pass you by. You deserve the best. So like 25 said, close the door but don't lock it if you so choose. That's pretty much where I am now. But if my STX comes thru that door, he's going to have to really have to work at to earn my trust and respect again. I will not let him hinder who I am now because I really like who I am. I feel that confidence just shines thru all the time now.

I agree with the rest. Don't be so readily avail to her. SHe lost her place of honor when she left.