H sent me the proposed split of assets last night. He's kind of screwing me over. He wanted to do this without lawyers but there is no way if this is what he's thinking.
Atta girl. I am just finishing up day 3. I had to start a new thread since my old one got locked. At least the new one starts off with a bit of humor....
I don't know if it's doing any good but I know begging, pleading, pursuing and crying doesn't work so what do I have to lose? Hopefully he'll realize once again what it means to have me out of his life completely.
I am so much further into this than you, that my STBX certainly wouldn't notice me being dark for 3 days. All her focus is on finally being with the OM who has spent 8-9 years trying to win her. But, my hope is that after a month or so, she will notice that she does miss seeing me and that I wasn't such a bad guy. Some day, I simply want her to admit she made some very bad choices - including choosing him over me. If that never happens, I still know it and that will be enough for me.
Started reading threads here again. Took me a while to get to the point where I can do that. I'm going to read DR when I get back home but I'm already thinking about DB principles.
Clearly I'm working on dark and going to do that for a while. I need the space apart right now, not just for him but for me.
What is a 180 for me now? Is it the same as last time? Or is it now something different?
And a small baby step goal for me to let me know that things are moving in the right direction: H will contact me for a reason not related to our R.
Are we twins separated at birth? That is my baby step goal to - to have STBX contact me first about anything, other than a negative thing. At this point, I have 95% given up hope of reconciliation, but her doing that would be a small victory to me, regardless of the outcome.
