Islander and 9, if you guys can swing some of the 2x4's my way I'd appreciate it. This vicious cycle seems to catch all of us...it's the merry-go-round that nobody can seem to get off of for various reasons.
EAs, OMs, MLCs...it continues to baffle me that so many people are going through almost exactly the same things here that I am. Heck, even some of the things our WAS's are saying are the same damn thing!
It's funny, I've been sad, I've been happy about my own changes, and I've even tried the anger route once on my W...I think in my case the fact that I'm showing emotion at all kind of freaks her out. It's a "where was this before" sort of reaction from her if you know what I mean.
I don't know how she behaves toward other people, and like you Islander, I'm trying not to think about it. But it's so funny when mutual friends tell me that they know how much she loves me. I know they're trying to help, but it makes me feel like s$@&. If she loves me, why isn't she here trying as hard as I am to save this, right?
Patience and time, and I know we're all beating a dead horse saying that, but I guess we can all only hope that the changes we've made for ourselves become evident to all our WAS's at some point.
BITS M: 35 W: 27 T 7.5 years M 5 years No kids My EA: 3/08 Her EA: 1/11, discovered 3/11 (ongoing?) ILYBINILY, D mentioned 3/8/11 W at parents house: 4/16/11
