Now here is where I need advice. I have been trying to tackle issues of respect as they arise. In other words wait for her to do or say something disrespectul, hold my ground, and show her I won't be bullied. After reading and re-reading both your comments I can tell both of you want me to take a more direct approach. I'll be honest....I am clueless and don't know how. I need some suggestions, maybe even step by step directions. Do you guys want a direct confrontation? If so how? when? where? What should I say or do. I think i finally get what you guys want me to do, I just don't know how. I feel like I almost need someone to hold me by the hand. It's sad I know.
Oh Good Lord...
I can't speak for 25 but I am in NO WAY suggesting a direct confrontation...
I am suggesting that women need to have respect for men, and your W does not have respect for you...
However, and here is the tricky part...
In order for her to respect you, YOU have to respect YOURSELF.
You have to love yourself and like yourself before anyone else can reflect that back to you.
You have to find within you what is broken, and fix that before things can begin to change.
A first step, is actually exactly what you are doing...
Stopping the poor treatment...
However, if you don't know why you allowed it in the first place, and deal with those things, you will end up falling back into old patterns.
Please don't have an all out confrontation with your W unless you want to start WWIII.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
