Am I doing everything wrong?

[Confused423]

Krit,

You are exactly right...it is FEAR!!! I struggle with it all of the time. Part of me is just tired of fighting for a man who doesn't want me and then another part of me just wants the man I love and I want to have my nice little family! It's a very frustrating place to be.

He brought up the R talk last night and I talked with him, but I don't know if it makes any difference. He is saying that he doesn't know if he'll ever be able to fully trust me again, but he's afraid that he'll never be able to fill the emptiness inside of him with anyone else. My question (I didn't ask him this) is "then why won't you try with me?" Of course, the answer to that is: If I try with you and it doesn't work...then I've lost my OW. I HATE being an option. I want to be more than an dang option...I want to be what he can't live without. But, I don't know how to get there without cutting him out of my life except for our D.

It's very hard for me to detach when my D is struggling so much and I just want to do what I know we should do and fix her pain...UGH!!! This is THE hardest thing I've ever done. His feelings are in such contrast to our feelings. I mean I have the same worries that he does, but I believe in us...ALOT.

I hope everyone is having a good weekend!